The story of adoption is a complex, powerful, and often emotionally charged one. While we tend to see the happily-ever-after of adopted children embracing their new families, that doesn’t mean the journey was easy. In fact, challenges are far more common than the perfect match followed by instant happiness. Children who understand the complexities of their adoption are better equipped to handle these challenges and grow up into resilient, empathetic adults.
Research has shown that it is important for children to learn about their birth family and history, especially if they are adopted. This helps them develop a strong sense of identity and self-worth, which is critical for their mental health. When children don’t have an understanding of their adoption story, they may struggle with feelings of inadequacy or inferiority. Some even struggle with depression or suicidal thoughts. Thankfully, there are many resources available that help adoptive parents share their child’s adoption story with them.
For example, children’s books can be a wonderful way to introduce the topic of adoption. These books can feature beloved Sesame Street characters and provide an engaging, comforting story for children. They can also show that a family can be formed in many different ways and that each is equally as special as the next.
Another way to tell your adoption story is by creating a scrapbook with your child. This is a great opportunity for them to express themselves creatively and to talk about their adoption with you in an open manner. However, it is important to remember that private details like fertility struggles or past failed pregnancies should be kept private and are not appropriate for sharing with friends and acquaintances outside of your adoption triad.